1. Sensual Massage = Relaxation In both men and women, the higher levels of the sexual intimacy happen when we get past stress, tension and anxiety. Women don’t respond well to sexual activity when they are exhausted, stressed or upset. Sensual massage helps to get rid of the tensions, anxiety and stresses. This prepares women for serious intimacy. In men if they are exhausted, tense or stressed they will use ejaculation in order to de-stress, reducing sexual activity to a mechanical and unfulfilling experience for women. If he remains unaware of the higher levels of intimacy then he may remain stuck in this mode of deeply unfulfilling sexual activity. Sensual massage is relaxing, invigorating, removes stress, promotes well being and helps the couple to bond. This prepares the way for the possibility of great fulfilling sex with relaxing and considerate foreplay. 2. Makes the skin an organ of heightened sensation The skin has around nineteen thousand nerve receptors per square inch. This leaves room for an incredible surface for experiencing pleasure. Sensuous massage activates the skin, promoting circulation of blood into it and hypersensitises the entire skin surface. This lays the ground for a deeply sensuous experience. The whole body becomes an organ of pleasure. 3. Sensual massage connects you and your partner which turns to foreplay Instead of rushing into intercourse, a session of slowly building sensual massage allows the partners to relax and slowly raise the temperature allowing the sexual response to take a deep root. Sensuous massage is best when done for its own sake without trying to rush towards intercourse. In other words the massage is the massage for its own sake. Think of it as taking a pot of water slowly to the boil. This allows the two people to harmonise and this bonding connects them allowing their intuition to connect and to begin to explore what the other wants. It is a doorway to the deeper aspects of intimacy. 4. Exploration of each others body Sensual massage allows you to connect and explore the body of your partner. To understand where their erogenous zones are, how they like you to stimulate them, in what order and so forth is part of getting to know the sexual delicacies of your partner. To explore how this changes with mood and time is a sexual adventure, it and of itself, and incredibly creative! It opens the foreplay into a deeply creative act. Most of all it teaches you to stay with what they like and how to keep that going, without turning them off. This exploration teaches you to get the pot boiling and how to keep it boiling. The thing is that with women their response is dynamic and changing so it teaches men to learn how to read that. This is a skill that will continue to pay dividends throughout their sexual lives; 5. Learn to Listen Regular sensual massage teaches you to listen with your body. To listen to what you like and to reflect that back to your partner. To listen to what your partner likes and to continue to give that to your partner. This promotes subtler communication. Listening combined with exploration will open portals to new modes of deeper experience. Listening with your body doesn’t only teach you to get the pot boiling but it gets you into your body and a deep connection with your partner, you realise that you are the water in the pot and you and your partner are boiling. It helps you to release yourself to the deep well of feeling that has now welled up between you; 6. Develop a lighter touch Nineteen thousand sensory receptors per square inch is an incredible potential for sensitivity. Primed and hypersensitive, a heavy touch may feel like a sledge hammer! Sensual massage teaches the virtue of a light responsive touch. It gets rid of pawing and brutish behavior which will wreak havoc with hypersensitive skin and destroy the mood. It teaches us to gently and steadily caress our way to higher states of pleasure. The light and gentle touch allows us to listen and to follow the indications through today's exploration of the wilderness; 7. Learn some control, hold it back In usual sexual activity, a small bout of foreplay leads to penetration which then rushes to climax. The climax is the end and it can come quickly - twenty minutes to half an hour may be considered a long time. Sensual massage is the easy way to learn the discipline of holding back and pacing the encounter to ensure. It teaches you to keep the pleasure going allowing both parties to enter plateaus of intense pleasure. With this discipline incredible intimacy becomes possible; 8. Rhythm In the universe, rhythm is everything. This reality allows us to understand our own rhythm (or lack of it) and teaches us to use it or fine-tune it to greater efficiency. Regular, rhythmic massage, steady, flowing, easy and pleasurable is the microcosmic activity that reflects the greater macrocosmic principle. This begins to teach the rudiments of going and going on. You keep going on connecting to the rhythm that rises up amongst you and keeping this going allows the successful completion of the journey. Surely this is useful in all aspects of life. Not only do we use routines, gestures and physical acts but connecting it to a universal rhythm allows one to undertake actions with greater purpose. 9. Working steadily through the stages You will notice that the sexual response has clear stages and you learn to work through them steadily and slowly, developing the art of sensuality. This is the study of our sensuous activity in the bedroom, with an attitude of observation and responsiveness. It gets us out of our idea of what should happen and open to what actually happens. Throughout the changing nature of the responses we eventually learn that the path has clear points at which things qualitatively change. This really brings the encounter to the level of a work of art, in which you partake and never know how it will turn out. Now if that doesn’t excite you then heaven help you! 10. It gets porn out of your system This is one of the most important aspects of sensuous massage and this is almost medicine. It gets you out of your head and all of your ideas of sexual and sensuous response and forces you to deal with reality. It works it out of your system. The fantasies about sex are just fantasies and this gets you face to face with a fulfilling, pleasurable reality which is short circuited by the fantasies. You end up a better more fulfilled lover once you get past the junk. 11. Sensual massage can improve your health Regular massage improves your health by improving blood flow and circulation, reduces stress levels, improves your wellbeing and providing regular sensuous massages will improve your relationship. 12. Close bonding teaches trust This bonding, mutual service and learning about each other, helps to build relationships of deep trust, without which the higher levels of intimacy cannot be reached. It breaks cycles of selfish relationships and narcissism. If you stick with providing sensual massage to your partner on a regular basis incredible things can happen.
A good place to learn about sensual massage would be to either arrange a course or book a sensual massage for your self to see what a tantric experience like this is like for the receiver. If you do a little google search you can find an endless list of providers, if you are from London then why not take a look by searching "sensual massage in london" and learn from the experience for your partners sake! I wonder if all this will make you any better in bed? who knows huh?
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